Escaping

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By Mouse

Re: Escaping
Sat 12 Jan 2008 01:53

Im with you on this one Mo, my plan when circumstances allow is to have a camper van and go touring. Maybe a few years yet until I can do it, but its my escape planning it (and buying things). A quiet forest will be the best place to park so no one can find me.

At least we can plan.

I have the opinion that society is not very nice and is full of deceitful people, but they know who they are and they have to live with it, shame im no mug and can spot them at 100 miles. It saddens me that you find such people in all walks of like and chatrooms (say no more). lol

Keep on planning your journey Mo, and I wish you well with it.

Mouse

By Tricia

Re: Escaping
Sat 12 Jan 2008 14:04

Mo that is a wonderful idea to share wtih other carers suggesting a quickie solution to having a few moments of escaping from the realities of being a carer for many.

When Mam was alive I went through a very stressful period in my caring role. Only the love which I had for my Mam was what kept me going. I am very fortunate that I was able to pick up the phone at any time and talk to my sister who lives 200 miles away and I was on my own at the time looking after Mam. One day I rang my sister almost in tears so I decided to ring her and filled my lungs up with as much air as I could and let a great big loud scream out....... Only that I had to do it without making any noise as my Mam would of heard me and would of been very upset that I was feeling like that about her at that time. My sister almost put the phone down thinking it was some crank call then I said, 'Oh it's me.' she replied, 'What on earth are you doing there. I was just about to put the phone down on you.' I then had to tell her that I needed to let out my stress levels as I was at breaking piont and decided to ring her and give her one of my silent screams.... She just started to roll about laughing (it is funny how you know someone is rolling about laughing when you can't see them on the other end of the phone!) But from then on all I had to do was ring my sister and do my silent scream and we would always end up laughing about it.

Mad I know but I always try to turn a stressful situation into a funny situation and it helps to get me through my day

take care everyone

By ValerieN

Re: Escaping
Wed 16 Jan 2008 17:35

My escape is the bathroom. Lots of bubbles, candles, a glass of wine and a LOCKED DOOR, the only problem is I can still here the fiasco going on downstairs waiting for me. Its good for awhile though. Take care all.

By angelica

Re: Escaping
Fri 18 Jan 2008 10:47

Brilliant idea Mo. The hardest thing I find about being a carer is the constant responsibility and worrying for the well being of someone else. All day, as well as the practical day to day caring stuff , I am constantly aware of what my husband is doing, protecting him from falling, looking out for indications of an oncoming seizure. Just before I fall asleep every night I am jolted awake by a panicky thought - have I given my husband his epilepsy medication ( as he has amnesia and also doesn't believe he needs pills it's up to me). Through a fog of half sleep I reassure myself that I have. Then all night I wake to help him turn over, check he's okay, go to the bathroom etc with him, deal with his seizures when he has one. It's like being constantly left on guard round the camp fire to protect the camp from wolves. Especially as I'm also looking after other members of my family. So this is my dream..
A beautiful room, with books and wonderful pictures lining the walls and lovely old rug on the floor. Everyone I love safe and looked after somewhere else in the house. A log fire (sorry bit of a cliche there) and a purring cat. A tray with a china cup and a teapot filled with steaming tea (that I didn't make). A huge shabby comfortable sofa with a soft pillow. And I curl up on the sofa, and listen to the crackling fire and the purring cat. And I close my eyes and I just let go....just for a little while I don't have to be on guard.. I can stop being the cavalry...I just let go......

By loopy

Re: Escaping
Thu 24 Jan 2008 18:48

i think of myself on a caribbean beach. I am lying on soft white sands and the warm sun is shining down on me. I can feel the sea gently lapping at my feet. I am sipping some exotic cocktail. Then i am bought back to reality when one of my kids shouts "MOM!!!!"

By CHERYL THE PERIL

Re: Escaping
Thu 24 Jan 2008 19:05

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All good ideas to relax. Funny how even in the toughest of times we find a way to escape to our own quiet place.
Thank goodness imagination is free

Cheryl x

By papanna

Re: Escaping
Thu 24 Jan 2008 21:18

My escape is to get onto a big comfy armchair with my cat for company and watch an old black and white movie. Sometimes I can catch forty winks and wake up feeling loads better

By morello

Re: Escaping
Fri 25 Jan 2008 09:38

Yes lets not tell the politicians or we may get taxed on our thoughts,or money deducted from our CA pittance for imagining some enjoyment and relaxation. I am not kidding.
Mo

By kerry

Re: Escaping
Fri 25 Jan 2008 18:42

Does hiding in the cupboard under the stairs count?????
Well, thats only until my youngest finds me anyway- usually about 2 minutes!

By julieds

Re: Escaping
Fri 25 Jan 2008 19:58

I love a soak in a bubble bath with a good book for as long as possible which is at best twenty minutes or so if Im lucky lol! then my grandson comes looking for his nanna and its back to reality.
Chin up everyone!!