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Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
- By Dawn Raider
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Sat 2 Feb 2008 01:15
Hi - I've had a few problems recently with abuse on other carers forums and wonder if anyone else has the same problem?
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Please reply below - we can only fight this problem together.
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- By morello
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sat 2 Feb 2008 10:44This is a problem I too have found, and a lot of these forums run by individuals who like the "I am in charge" fact and do actually bully you if you are not careful. I know they speak to moderators behind your back as I have seen it. I think the best way to go is give no personal details out on your caring or private life . If they start then dont use these boards, they lose the memberships very fast and also a lot of them are helped financially by local council funding, which I find disgusting. These councils obviously do not help monitor these sites for any abuse or bullying. Whilst we all have the right to free speech, it should not be at the expense of other vulnerable carers.
Maybe a list on here of sites that people have found this on could be used for advice on maybe where to be careful, and beware of info you give out. It is all too easy to fall prey to these people when we are feeling the need to talk to somebody as a lot of us are isolated and it is our only means of communication with what we think are people who understand
Mo
- By KenM
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sat 2 Feb 2008 11:19The only board I have found to allow if not condone abuse is Carers UK. Be very careful with this-- for example--I bet you assumed the original poster of this thread was female!
Can you be sure that this is not political or that the charity boards are getting worried that their inadequacies are being exposed ?
Is it just a coincidence that this post follows the closing and reopening of an independent board that has a reputation for ruffling a few feathers??
There are lots of questions I would need answering before I take this post as anything other than being mischievous.Regards Ken
- By jeanette
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sat 2 Feb 2008 12:09For what it is worth .my opinion is,that no Care sites/ forums should be named, because lots of Carers have differing opinions,and likes and dislikes of different boards, but any infringement of the rules of each site should be reported immediately! Why on earth we can't work together ,accepting Carers rights to their own opinions (but not abuse) amazes me! Work together achieve ..work appart and lose!
Ken ..what is the significance of the original poster being male or female?? A carer is a carer ..male or female!
- By KenM
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sat 2 Feb 2008 12:17So-why would anyone want to hide their gender ??
I agree with you on your other points jeanette.
- By les
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sat 2 Feb 2008 12:23yes a carer is a carer regardless of their gender, but sadly some people on some forums are not always what they seem. ken is making a valid point in my opinion.
we are all carers with obviously differing opinions on many subjects. its sad that in some cases there has been abuse to others on some sites and the only way to avoid that is basically to avoid those sites.
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By cracker
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sat 2 Feb 2008 14:30It is not just carer forums that have the odd abusive member.This kind of thing can happen on any forum.I have found that on some sites they have a liitle thing in the corner saying report this post,this will alert the moderators .They then can remove the post and warn the person responsible.
If anyone is personal or abusive towards you,it is best not to respond. I do not think sites should be named,as the management takes on new members on trust ,and unless they prove themselves to be troublemakers,that is the way it is. If you have trusted someone and they send you an abusive email,Hotmail has a report abuse facility,just copy the offending mail and send it to them.
- By graham
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sat 2 Feb 2008 14:35I believe this thread is disguising some sort of 'hidden agenda'. I have seen it before. I have always been astonished that some ( so called ) carers have the energy or inclination to stir up trouble for their own puposes.
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By glynne
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sun 3 Feb 2008 00:06What is abuse? Without examples how can ayone comment? In re Graham, I admit to being stupid, but hidden agenda? The whole thread of this board I find incompresensible.
- By les
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Sun 3 Feb 2008 12:18perhaps dawn raider who began this thread could explain, because quite frankly i cannot see where any of this applies to this website.
les
- By Dawn Raider
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Re: Abuse on privately-run forums for carers
Mon 4 Feb 2008 00:21Yes, the kind of abuse I am talking about is this kind of response, which rather than addressing the point, simply attempts to undermine the credibility of the author:
"There are lots of questions I would need answering before I take this post as anything other than being mischievous."And this one:
"I believe this thread is disguising some sort of 'hidden agenda'. "
Let alone this one:
"I bet you assumed the original poster of this thread was female!" -
Well it's obvious to anyone with access to Google search that "Dawn Raider" is the name of a ship not a person, and why not use a screen name if you are being being subject to abuse ...its a reasonable form of self defence to protect your privacy - and some of our posts might be read by our carees or relatives, which compromises our need for confidentiality doesnt it?
I'm clearly not the only person who regards these kind of response as unpleasant and I do think its time that we addressed this issue seriously, because abuse puts carers off from using the internet to share views and experiences.
