The public.

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By polly

Re: The public.
Wed 22 Aug 2007 10:39

i know how you feel i have look after my sister for 25 years isuppose tou can find excuse for teeagers (well not really) but it is the adults that i find i cant undersand we have had lots of incidents she as learning disabilitys and when i take her out walking t shops or hospital when she does not want to walk she will stat shouting abuse at me and she some times throws her self on the floor and she is quite big and people just stop and stare dont ask if you want any help and some times when they stare i ask if i can help them and they just walk off also i have a friend who as two boys who are austistic so as the saying goes ther is always some one worse off than you when the bank holiday comes or xmas she as to send one of them away

By Grumpy_Bear

Re: The public.
Thu 23 Aug 2007 14:26

The public is a hard thing, seeing somebody ill and being cared for is something their version of reality often cant accept. The amount of times if had to medically treat mum in an emergency in town infront of a large auidence is ridiculous, and like polly, nobody offerred to help, and i was just a kid at the time!When i was younger, was at lakeside looking after my mum, i was having to physically support mum to stop her falling down, everybody just stares. When shed recovered abit, we realized we still had a rather large audiece, so she stood up, smiled at me in that dark humour way, threw her handbag on the floor and told me to pick it up!lol, i of course did and people seemed so shocked, so since theyd just dropped themsleves in it i decided to take a bow and embarass them! 22 now and people still stare on occassion and make the odd comment, you just have to realize their stupidly naive and that you are alot better than them.

By booglebum

Re: The public.
Thu 23 Aug 2007 23:18

i got laughed at today, i had to try stop sis from going to shop in p'js but no its either slap in my face or let her do it with kids laughing at her whilst i get enough anger to blimming deck the little nasty kds but i dont , i know i cant. still i feel for sis who thinks nothing of it. on anothe note i feel guilty as i selfharming myself as i cant cope ne more not just with sis but with parents too, i swear my partener hates me. just feeel so overwelemed. sorry i shouldnt take post into dif direction.

By casdok

Re: The public.
Fri 24 Aug 2007 12:23

Am very sad to hear of your distress Booglebum. I know how hard it can be at times. Have you anyone you can talk to?

By loopy

Re: The public.
Fri 24 Aug 2007 17:58

I have a severely Autistic daughter and it is hard enough controlling her temper outbursts without scum like that laughing at you or filming you on their bloody mobile phones!! how dare they!! I once had a woman tell me that my daughter needed a damn good slap! I told her (no sorry, i shouted at her) that the only person that needed a good slap was her and that i would be giving it her if she didn't shut her mouth. I have come across loads of ignorance

By loopy

Re: The public.
Fri 24 Aug 2007 18:04

I have seriously thought of having a t shirt printed with AUTISTIC, NOT NAUGHTY printed on it. the best way to deal with scum like that is to totally ignore them. Even to laugh at them because they are the ones with the problems. People like that REALLY do annoy me. Dont let it get to you cos if you do, they have won. take care.

By casdok

Re: The public.
Fri 24 Aug 2007 18:20

I to have been told he needs a good slap, a cold bath and various other things that i try and put out of my mind! He was filmed again today in our local shopping centre. The security guards were very good and were on it quickly. It makes me so mad and i feel so violated.
Thankfully as far as i can tell my son isnt aware of these incidents.
There are times when i find it hard to take him out, but i keep doing so in the hope that the public in time will get used to seeing him and not bat an eye lid. But maybe this wont happen in my life time!

By loopy

Re: The public.
Fri 24 Aug 2007 21:33

a cold bath? i hope u told whoever said that where to go (in no uncertain terms). some middle aged man once took the mickey out of my daughter whilst she was eating her dinner. Unfortunately for him it was my husband (who takes no crap) who was with her. He calmly walked over to the man and tipped a plate of beans over his head! I didn't know whether to laugh or cry when he told me later what he had done! served the man right for being such an ignorant idiot

By loopy

Re: The public.
Fri 24 Aug 2007 21:37

please dont feel violated. Hold your head high and congratulate yourself on being a wonderful parent. Ignore the idiots who know no better. Lets just hope that this terrible affliction does not
affect any children that they have in later life. If it does then they should shamefully remember what they did and hang there heads in shame.

By loopy

Re: The public.
Fri 24 Aug 2007 21:43

and booglebum you should take no notice either. People should not laugh at others who are less fortunate than themselves. sounds like you do a grand job of looking after your sister. You should not self harm either! dont take all this on your shoulders. please go and speak to someone in confidence. GOOD LUCK X