I cant cope

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By kerry.

Re: I cant cope
Thu 20 Nov 2008 16:58

Hey come on Boots, whats up mate?

first of all stop the drinking cos it always makes things 100 times worse.
What's happened ?happening?

By meg mackenzie

Re: I cant cope
Thu 20 Nov 2008 17:54

You have done the hardest bit by admitting you have a problem. If you can open your heart we carers on the forum will between us be able to offer some practical help.

Hope you can post again soon

Take care
Meg

By rainbow77

Re: I cant cope
Thu 20 Nov 2008 18:53

I have felt like that often enough, but its not the end of the world, there is always help to be had. You have already taken the first step, all of us on here are willing to listen and to offer any help and support that we can, you are not alone, and I'm sure someone here will have already came through the same thing you are going through now. Chin up, we are all here for you.

By hal

Re: I cant cope
Thu 20 Nov 2008 19:07

Hey Boots

Why are you unable to cope with things at the moment?

Let us know what we can do to help you.

Come online to chat if you would like to. You know that there is always somebody here to help you.

We are always here for you

Hal

By Silver lining

Re: I cant cope
Thu 20 Nov 2008 19:58

Hi Ann,
Sorry to hear things are not good for you at present.
You know deep down drinking won't help matters...might blot things out for a while but in the end it just makes things worse.
Get to the Drs and get in touch with AA. They will help I am sure.
Think of all that money you are pouring away.
Do come back into the chat room....though there seems less people than there used to be and they often don;t come in until late.
Love
Silver

By mandymouse

Re: I cant cope
Thu 20 Nov 2008 21:38

Hi Boots

I'm new here and just read your post. I too used to drink too much, and understand it's the last thing you want to hear when people say 'stop drinking.' If only it were that simple. Thing is, it actually is! Start to believe it, and more importantly, have faith in yourself. You are far stronger than you think, and you know it. Is it really worth another hangover? Don't let the self destruct button win!!!
You can beat this. Let us all know how you get on.
Much love x

By EL

Re: I cant cope
Thu 20 Nov 2008 22:14

OH boots NOOOO don't do that love, been there done that all it does is make things ten times worse and you less able to cope, i had a drink problem when i was in my 20's and it solved nothing and just made me so much worse off, please don't do it

By moonstar

Re: I cant cope
Fri 21 Nov 2008 12:38

Hi Ann

Sorry things not going so well at the minute.

I've not been in chatroom for a few months, but will try to get in soon. Hope you can come in too for a chat.

Sending you a great big HUG.

Please take care.

Jane

By Starby

Re: I cant cope
Fri 21 Nov 2008 13:37

Hi Boots, sorry you're having such a bad time. I do empathise with feeling like you just don't know how to cope. I've been there. Talking to people seems hard initially but I find it does help if you can force yourself to share the burden. Can you say a bit about how things are for you? Thinking of you x

By Tricia

Re: I cant cope
Fri 21 Nov 2008 16:10

Hello Ann

Not seen you much lately in the chat room have been wondering where you have been hiding. Now I know behind that bottle I often feel like that and a few weeks ago did have a couple of drinks when out with friends; no more than I usually have in anything less,. Normally I am not ill the next day but the next day I felt awful. My tummy had a burning sensation and my head felt light and airy (those who know me no comment about my head!) Then I had a conversation with my big white telephone which did seem to make me feel a bit better but just the way I felt before hand made me think that's it no more for me I don't want to feel like that.

So the next day I sat down and wrote down somethings for me and titled them what do I want not what am I to do for others. One of them was to order a book called unstoppable confidence which am in the middle of reading and it has helped me loads. It is slowly buidling up my confidence and I have discovered it is my thoughts that lead to my actions not the actions of others which influence my thougths. That way I can't blame anyone else for how I feel, even if their lives are not going to plan. Its going to be a long slow road but now I know am taking my first steps and I know now that my life is worth living and I am going to enjoy each day as it arrives and if I do have any relapses I will just have to pick myself up dust my self down with a huge feather and pick up from where I had got to.

But it is only when your ready to change things that is when you can take the first steps. Hope you don't have to wait too long as I am so excited at the thought of having a life which I can think my own thoughts and influence my own feelings regarless if the sky is falling in above me

Look forward to seeing you in the chat room soon

take care and thinking of you don't forget were all here for each other