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I care for my wife
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By Marcuspolo
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Thu 8 May 2008 09:47
Hi everyone. This is my first time doing anything like this. I have been looking after my wife for the past 18 years. She has Bipolar Disorder which started with the birth or my daughter who is now 18. My wifes episodes were long and severe at the start and lasted for months at a time. Since then they became less frequent with medication but still severe during an episode. The last 4 years have seen her have episodes reoccur every year.
The reason I have registered is I have had no support for me and I have bottled up 18 years of stress and thoughts that I can not discuss with anyone else. I am feeling alone and lost in a world I call helland there is no way out for me.
I am in full time employment and I like being at work as it is my escape but when my wife gets ill I have to take time off.
I know its really selfish and I would never do anything silly but I am looking forward to the day that I no longer walk this planet as I know I will be at peace.
I went to a funeral the other day and I was please for the person who had passed away as they had no more worries or stress of life and living.
I could go on about how I feel and how my life has been affected. All my family and friends think I am so strong caring for my wife.
We are both normal people with average lives. We do not drink, smoke and have never taken any illegal drugs. So why does my wife suffer so much I can't understand.
People say there is always someone worse of than you but thats not an answer. Why would it make me happy to think someone is worse of than me. If they are then maybe I can help them and then that would make me feel better.
Thanks fo listening to me rant on.
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- By mag
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Re: I care for my wife
Thu 8 May 2008 10:32Hi Marcuspolo
A warm welcome to you. Here you will find Carers dealing with many different caring situations. No matter how varied our experiences, there is also so much in common so others can empathasise with the feelings you describe .
I am sure you will have replies from many Carers who are dealing with similar situation to yours and this will be particularly helpful as they will have relevant suggestions, eg websites, help groups, etc.
My caring role is looking after hubby who has had leukaemia for 9 years and now also some age related issues. We are both senior citizens.
Why not come in to chat room on this site where you will find conversation on any subject you wish, and where you can ask others for help/advice too. Usually there are people in chat from 7.30 pm onwards.
You are so welcome - Mag
- By doug
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Re: I care for my wife
Thu 8 May 2008 11:37welcome marcuspolo i know exactly what you are going through mate i look after my wife 24/7 and for 15years she has multiple illness i could just imagine
the thoughts going through your head i felt the same way ive managed too deal with it over the years its tuff but ive managed it and with out any help either im not a strong person but you learn to live with it everybody is different we have all got our ways i hope you can get help or talk to someone
i know its hard too talk and put it in to words that someone can understand its not easy mate i cant talk to anyone because i feel they wouldnt understand its all bottled inside me to so i know what you are saying but ive managed to use it to make my self stronger now i can cope with anything that is thrown at me mag is right the chat room is very good to let off steam people in there will try and give you a lot of help if they can and you will get a lot of laughs as well all the best mate keep the chin up and welcome 
- By cracker
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Re: I care for my wife
Thu 8 May 2008 20:09Hi Marcus. I am in a similar situ to Doug. I also have a son with Bipolar, and can understand just how you are feeling. Pop in the chat room whenever you can, you can have a good moan or a laugh and also get some good advice from our mixed bag of members,many who have a spouse who suffer with the condition or similar.
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