Loneliness

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By Silver lining

Re: Loneliness
Fri 14 Mar 2008 20:08

Hi Serena,
I am so sorry you feel like this, but yes it is a symptom of caring that can be so hard to tackle.
Be assured you are not a monster, and it is not unusual to be made to feel as you do by those one cares for. They seem to have to take their frustrations out on someone and that is often the nearest and dearest.
I used to go out into the garage and punch a pillow and then return as if my Aunt had not been nasty... all sweetness and light. It would also seem that the more you do the more they expect and demand.
If you have a Carers Group near you it would help to be in touch with others who find the similar problem. Talking your feelings through with people who have been there, does help. It can throw up so many strange feelings you never thought possible.
Sadly until one cares for a loved one, parents or partners you do not realise what an all consuming occupation it is, and yes it can get very lonely as there seems to be no one else in the world who understands what it is like.
Don't dispare. There is help out there, whether it be through your local group who may put you in touch with someone near by or on the telephone. Then there is this chat group, which usually comes into being after 7.30pm. Very friendly lot who understand and do not judge....though having said this they seem to be fewer people coming in at present.
Then if all else fails there is the Samaritans who are used to hearing about difficulties and problems with caring, again without judging...sometimes it is easier to talk to complete strangers.
It is better to get those feelings out than to allow resentment to build up.
Make sure you keep your friends and go out as much as you can. It is so important to have a life and not to be so isolated if you can manage it.
I am sure it must feel as though all the responsibility of your parents is on your head, perhaps talking things over with your Doctor would help.
Whatever way I am sure you will find people to talk with.
All the best for now
Silver Lining

By Serena

Re: Loneliness
Sat 15 Mar 2008 15:52

Dear Silver Lining

Thanks for your reply. It's nice to feel that there are other people out there who understand. I will try and find out if there's a local carers' group. I'm sure you are right that that would help.

All the best,
Serena