afraid of future

Replies

By mag

Re: afraid of future
Thu 1 Nov 2007 11:25

Hello Ju

I look after my hubby who has been ill for over 8 years - like you I have no-one here to share day to day worries, etc, and of course the feeling of isolation is very strong .

If you have not already done so, I would invite you to come into the chat room where you will find friendly folk - no matter how varied the caring roles are, there is also so much in common. I do not always manage to be in chat, depending on the demands of caring role, but when I am there I find it lifts the spirits .

There is usually company in the chat room from 7.30 pm onwards. Hope to see you there soon.

Kind regards - Mag

By Sweezan

Re: afraid of future
Sun 4 Nov 2007 19:09

Ju

My first time on this site. Feeling very cut off at present. I understand the feeling of isloation even though I am lucky and have support from my lovely husband in caring for my terminally ill dad. Sometimes though it feels like everyone I know is busy with their jobs and their priorities are so different. If I can get my dad to eat a poached egg it is a major acheivement. Hope to meet you and Mag in the chatroom. Sweezan

By Laura

Re: afraid of future
Tue 6 Nov 2007 19:39

I know how it feels to feel completely isolated and unsure of where to turn or who to talk to. I care for my grandparents; my nan has dementia and my grandad suffers with an anxiety disorder, which affects daily living.

I don't live with them, but I help them with their personal care, housework, shopping etc... It's hard work and sometimes I would really like to have some time to myself, and have one day where I don't worry about how they are coping whilst I'm at work.

I know that there are carer support groups happening in my area, but they are during the day so I can't go along. It's nice to be able to talk to people on here, people who do understand and know how difficult it can be.

By lurcherman Mike

Re: afraid of future
Tue 6 Nov 2007 20:53

I have a full time job and care for my wife all the time. And i am around people all time yet i feel isolated. My bosses cared to begin with now question every time off i need. family have disappeared off the scene and dont understand, so thank god for the Carers forums etc.. this really helps and only carers really understand... look forward to seeing you all in the chat rooms soon.

Mike

By glynne

Re: afraid of future
Wed 7 Nov 2007 11:18

Cheshirecarer, I have an email friend that has helped me a great deal. If you think that would help you I would be willing to be yours. I don't know if addresses are allowed but here goes! Thinking back I could not have thought how that simple contact could have made me feel, less isolated, someone, and a someone that someone wanted to know if only via the net. Keep your chin up

By Emma

Re: afraid of future
Fri 9 Nov 2007 11:24

Hi, i am Emma and work at PRT. We have had to take off the personal email address that was given out as we encourage everyone to protect their anonymity on the boards. If you do want to get in touch with a contact on here then you can email web@carers.org and we will set this up, as long as both parties are happy with it!

By only i care

Re: afraid of future
Wed 19 Dec 2007 14:38

hiya all i look after my menterley handicapt bro fulltime for last 10 years and yes it can be very isolating and very lonley at times specialy when others dont understand how hard a job we do and very depressing at times but is always good to talk if you have someone that knows what you are going threw in all these areas of fields indeed so keep up good work and keep your chin up all

By morello

Re: afraid of future
Thu 20 Dec 2007 14:06

isolation is probably the worst part of caring, that and lack of support from the people that should be there for the carer and never are. I try not to think about it but it is in the back of my mind. We are social lepers arent we, unless you know somebody else doing the same job,I do think unless you are a carer you understand this awful feeling and the depression it causes
Mo

By Silver lining

Re: afraid of future
Fri 21 Dec 2007 13:54

I think that the 'Chat room' is one of the best ways of helping when you feel isolated. 7.30pm each night someone usually comes in, and they are all Carers who understand...wonderful bunch. Sometimes they might not get in until a bit later but you can have private chats too with someone who is in similar shoes, if you need to. We can share anything and everything...and we do. Tears and laughter. So anyone who feels isolated do come and join us, they are real friends.
Every blessing and happy Christmas to all.
Silver