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spina bifida
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By charlee
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Thu 19 Jul 2007 17:54
i care for my partner of 14 months, and tho we love each other and do have great times, the bad times seem to be mounting up, this is his firdt real relationship, so i know its hard for him, but i cant keep letting him treat me like a doormat... where is the happy medium. i know that he is to proud to say sorry and far too stubborn!! but if i let him walk over me-he'll take it for granted that i will let him. desperate to hear from any people with spina bifida or their carers
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By saz
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Re: spina bifida
Thu 19 Jul 2007 18:06
hi charlee, i also cere for my partner we've been together 8 years he was fit n healthy till last year he had a fall n now has leukodystrophy is dissabled needs help with just about everything. sometimes i feel like a slave he wants something i get him it he cant help it but takes his fustreatin out on be he can be very demanding but still i love him to bits.
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By sab
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Re: spina bifida
Thu 19 Jul 2007 22:42Hello charlee,
I am carer to my husband, (quadraplegic) and although I thought I was his wife first carer second this role has now reversed. The 'wife' part has disappeared, and yes I too get treated like a doormat, I have to cope with the constant moods, demands, and general neglect from a man I thought loved me, but I'm still here, I see it as my duty now, I am not happy, but if I am not here, who else would do it?? My son is also severly disabled so I am being torn between the two. Good luck with your partner, I would lay it on the line to him, even threaten to leave, that usually works wonders.
Keep your chin up and take care of yourself too.