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Neighbour entangled in Cleaner v/s Carer battle
- By MariaLisa
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Fri 19 Jan 2007 09:47
My neighbour is an elderly lady who lives alone. One evening, the cleaner phoned me to ask whether the carer came at a specific time to see my neighbour. The carer was here in early evening but not at the specific time mentioned. The cleaner then complained to the carer's agency thereby getting the carer into trouble! Now, I don't know what specific duties the carer is supposed to do or whether she needed to come at that specific time but now the carer thinks that I am the one who called. I don't know what happened between the carer and the cleaner but something must have happened and they have entangled me in their battle. What should I do?
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- By incompletely
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Re: Neighbour entangled in Cleaner v/s Carer battle
Fri 19 Jan 2007 09:58Sounds like a personal thing between, the Carer and the Cleaner, don't get involved, nothing to do with you. Always better to say nothing, 'say nothing and saw wood' as they say. Let them sort out their own petty bitchiness. You are unwittingly being used as a scapegoat, to get to each other.
- By MariaLisa
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Re: Neighbour entangled in Cleaner v/s Carer battle
Fri 19 Jan 2007 11:05Thanks. That's the attitude I was adopting except that the carer came and showed me her office time table, and makes a face each time she sees me! It's hard for me to assume the scapegoat role but I think that 'say nothing and saw wood' is the best attitude to adopt.
- By Lynn
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Re: Neighbour entangled in Cleaner v/s Carer battle
Fri 19 Jan 2007 12:34Sadly they did involve you and why should be the one to take the blame. I would ask the cleaner to tell the carer the truth and say that if she doesn't then you will. Just be honest and get it cleared up.
- By MariaLisa
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Re: Neighbour entangled in Cleaner v/s Carer battle
Fri 19 Jan 2007 17:20Thanks Lynn, but I have been honest and I did tell the carer that I did not call her office but of course, she does not believe me. As to asking the cleaner to tell the truth, what's the point? In the best scenario, she will admit that she called the agency but will say that I am the one who told her the carer did not come at that specific time (which is true in a way since she phoned me to ask that specific question!). By answering her question I stupidly put myself in the scapegoat position. So, I think that the best option is to just ignore them and hope that their pettiness does not affect the welfare of my elderly neighbour.
- By FlowerPetal
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Re: Neighbour entangled in Cleaner v/s Carer battle
Fri 2 Feb 2007 21:30
I think i'd be inclined to tell them both to get a life and not to intefere with mine!!!
Are they never together at your neighbours house? if they are, why not call in one day and tell them both to their face that your were not involved then and you dont plan to get involved now and for the sake of your neighbour, your not going to take their un-professional behaviour any further.Good luck
Flower xx