(((HUGS)))) Ena
It is the worst thing...I can cope with anything so long as Ali is happy. First thing is to see it as a chemical reaction not a personal attack.Then work out how to treat the bad chemicals which are causing it. We have had nearly 18 months with Ali flaring up and hitting himself. He doesnt ever hit me but one way I have found of breaking the flare up is to raise my voice...after months of staying calm and trying to not react and absorb the aggression I ran out of tolerance and strength and did this instinctively but found it worked...I shout basically to shock him out of it and if he reacts aggressively I ask him if he wants to hit me?...then I immediately tell him I love him and am doing it to help him and we sit and hug for about an hour. The LD team have been flipping useless. But then I have always been determined not to put him on anitpsychotic or hugely sedating drugs.
So, I paid to see a nutritionist and we have worked on his diet to stabilise his blood sugar levels as peaks and troughs cause flareups. Then we have given him some good quality vitamins and minerals and acidophilis to balance his gut. We have tried a fish oil product..Stabilium...which worked well. He had it for a couple of months and we immediately noticed he was calmer. it controls mood in an uplifting mind enhancing way rather than by sedating. He has been off it a week and is now fine without it. His concentration is back so he can work off frustration through games which he had all but stopped playing and he is choosing music he wants to listen to which he uses to manage his moods. I also buy a melatonin spray from the Detox people which helps him go to sleep if he is buzzing at bedtime and I have invested in a weighted blanket which helps him sleep. Trouble is it costs money and the NHS dont help. The other thing is that the over the counter vitamins and minerals we bought before from Boots or Holland and Barrett were pathetically weak compared with the ones we now buy especially in terms of B Vitamins and fish oils.
If this is a new recurrence I am sure it can be helped. The problem with Ali is that I have to find the answers..he just reacts to the problem!
Take care
Karen x

I've more or less given up now, I just feel like a punchbag. His brother & father dissppeared for good & can't be traced, any other family vanished long ago. I just don't see any future for either of us. At least if I could drive we got out to see something. Plus I've got a courtcase from DWP over my head.

I've done the ressurection thing one to may times, perhaps this is the time someone is saying call a halt, I've never been on the receiving end of violence before, I feel like a cowering dog, trouble is the police were nice to him - 'it's not nice to hit mummy' anybody else would have been put in a cell so he thinks it's a bit of a game. What when the GP refers LD team & then we get SS walking all over our lives. Been there, done it (several), no intention of doing it again. Not a lot left is there.

Idiots! It should explain itself shouldnt it??? They know where his benefits are paid to. Did they do a check on your bank account then? I have Alis paid into my account as I havent yet got around to doing the POA.
Perhaps you need a "restbite" break? When it got bad we had some emergency respite..the first respite ever. It not only gave me a break from it but it reset the boundaries. Do you get any time apart from each other. We dont just now but it does you good. I wemnt out this afternoon for a spiritual reading and Ali was fine with Angus...first time I've left them in ages. Probably did them as much good as it did me!?
It doesnt mean anything is over when you reach the end of your tether it just means you need a break and a change of life balance. I'll let you know when I've completed that journey but am not giving up yet!
Karen x