As you know i care for 21 year old son who has dyspraxia with learning difficulties, and with it comes partial deafness and anxiety disorder.I like many other carers have health problems and no one to help us at home. Sunday night big flare up with son. Hubbie, sensitive batchelor before he met me and son moved in 6 years ago. Academic,big family son not wanted by them.Hubbie finally said that when im upset he gets upset too. If you care for someone eg hubbie son etc wife sister, friend, you wouldnt wish to see them upset by something you have done would you? How do you get round this?Do you eg just tell them the good things, the quiet peaceful things? Or do you share most things and hope they will understand and if they care for you hope they would do the same? Have a good day everyone- im confused. Hugs xxxx