Jane
I know I am probably going beyond the boundaries and obviously I dont know you or Cian personally but I do know that feeling not in control leads to depression. That is why I was trying to say perhaps Cian needs to sort out some of his own problems with your support. I know that Angus gets really down if problems arent resolved and if he can do them himself he not only has the burden of the hovering issue lifted but he feels empowered. We have been to Aspie support group meetings where many hide behind the Aspergers saying "I'm an Aspie, that's the way i am and so I can't do that!"...whereas some of them dont advertise the fact and try and get on with life accepting that sometimes it doesnt go to plan. However the evidence is that where they talk to someone and try and overcome the problem it is often successful and they can move ahead in their life. The overwhelming consensus is that those who succeed dont do so by avoiding issues or flying the Aspie flag all the time. Angus doesnt want to be cared for all his life...does Cian????
That's all. I only am saying this to try and help you and Cian as it seems you are both unhappy.
Take care
Karen xx

ps i have discovered that the taxi driver told his bosses that i invited him into the house, no doubt this was wrong if i did Cian was having a really difficult morning and hubbie stays in bed until he has gone.They must have thought i meant in a bad way. I am waiting to find out what really hapened but iv no doubt i will get the blame for the breakdown of the taxi rlationship. Watch this space ....

Hi Karen how are you today. Not too wet in the rain i hope. The only problem with cians girfriend is that her single mum doesnt drive so on top of the rediculous miles we are now doing evreyday we also have another 12 miles on a sunday to thier house!They might have to start using the bus .... xx