Let me introduce myself to the forum. My name is John I live with my partner of 23yrs and our two children 13 and 11.
My partner had a stroke some 10yrs ago when the children were just babies the doctors said because of her age she would probably make a full recovery,no such luck from then on it's been downhill all the way.
I was self employed and time being off work meant no pay, things were really difficult and the debts and mortgage arrears were getting out of control, inbetween all this my son was playing up at school. Something wasn't right, after four years of hell he was eventually diagnosed as having aspergers syndrome (a form of autism).
My partner was getting worse her mobility was poor and she was in constant pain and started falling on a regular basis it was getting more and more difficult to get out to work. I got no help whatsoever from the social services because I WORKED. eventually my house was repossessed I was in tears nowhere to go and no one to turn to. Everything we built up all our working lives was crumbling before our eyes. The local council said they would put us in a homeless unit, no way. I sold everything I could, even down to some of the kids toys. I got enough money for a deposit on a private let. We always wanted to retire to the countryside so we got a cottage on a country estate thinking at least we would be happy in our surroundings. The kids settled in quite well my son loved it but my daughter was finding village life difficult but three years later she's settled well and my son with support and the small village school has come on well.
I contacted a local voluntary family help group and they have been brilliant sorting out my benefits, rent and council tax payments etc. A point I'd like to make is why would social services not help when I was was working but now they pay my rent etc. The country estate I live in is owned by royalty, so they will pay it to one of the richest men in the country but woudn't help me with my mortgage.
Anyway thats my basic story, now i'm a full time carer to my patner and my son I find that i'm lonely, the cottage is quite isolated so I dont see anyone except the postman for weeks on end I cant leave my partner for too long on her own I definately cant leaxve her with our son she cant handle him. "Am I JUST BEING SELFISH" I would love to here peoples thoughts. If I sound like i'm moaning I apologise I'm sure there is people in a worse situation.